Sponsored: Bobbi Ebsen Psychotherapy hosts open house

On June 18 from noon to 2 p.m., join Bobbi Ebsen Psychotherapy at her open house in celebration of successful therapy! All are welcome, a light lunch and refreshments provided.

This is for anyone who has always wanted to ask a therapist some basic questions, or anyone who has considered therapy and wants to check it out in an indirect, safe sort of way. Here are a few basic questions most people want to know about therapy:

  • What do I talk about?
  • Will you blame my mother?
  • Can you resolve my issues faster?

Looking forward to hearing your own questions and seeing you soon! Office located in downtown Novi: 43155 Main St., Suite 2210A, Novi, MI; 734-223-6014; https://www.bobbiebsen.com

Highly Successful People Seek Therapy

Success doesn’t make people immune to depression, marital problems, parenting issues, stress or any of the other reasons people pursue psychotherapy. But, in addition to those common problems that often lead people to get professional help, there are some issues that are a bit more unique to people whom reach high levels of achievement. Here are the five most common reasons highly successful people seek therapy:

1. High Competency with Low Confidence

This is when people have proven, high-level skills, very competent individuals who feel like a complete failure. Rather than feel pride in their achievements, these people attribute their success to luck, temporary effort, give credit to someone else, rather than own their success and their inherent skills. People will present to a therapist’s office with insomnia, excessive worry, chronic sickness, drinking too much, depression, sitting on the couch all weekend, etc. They are not aware anything is wrong with them and have no awareness of their underlying feelings of inadequacy. This is what pop psychology has termed “imposter syndrome.”

Therapy is essential for these individuals supporting them to build confidence, understanding their true value and knowing their authentic self.

2. Subconscious drives behavior

This can be hard for some people to accept but our subconscious drives our behavior. For example, a child who was told by his parents that he’ll “never amount to anything,” may make his sole purpose in life to prove his parents wrong. Or someone who experienced a painful divorce may decide that success is the best form of revenge. This can lead to workaholics, using substances, generalized dissatisfaction (often times these individuals try to pin their generalized dissatisfaction on their spouse), insomnia, marital problems (or perpetually single), feelings of inadequacies, trying to prove your self worth by being over-extending themselves in volunteer activities etc. These people innocently are not aware and continue to spin their tires in life, often time not succeeding at that very thing they want so badly; and often have built an environment around them that cocoons them in their dysfunctional behavior.

Therapy is essential and will support people in discovering what their past wounds are and give them tools to heal, to become happier and more effective in creating a happy, prosperous, successful life.

3. Fear

I cannot emphasize this one enough, people have irrational fears, often times these fears seem justified in present day. For example, fears show up as: fear of financial situation, fear of political climate, fear of the President’s behavior, fear of an economic crisis, fear of a looming war, fear of bankruptcy, fear of going back to the handmaid’s tale, etc. These seem like rational worries, but are always rooted in childhood wounds, which have created adults who are plagued with self-doubt.

Treatment is essential in these individuals. Therapy will help people explore where these old fears come from (childhood experiences) and teach them new ways of thinking and seeing themselves and the world.

4. Loneliness

It’s lonely at the top. Highly successful people have climbed up their professional ladder, and often times find themselves in a new environment where they find themselves alone. It is no longer appropriate to confide in co-workers because they have become their subordinates, leaving these people with fewer opportunities to debrief, decompress or socialize at work. This situation can cause: depression, substance abuse, marital problems, weight gain, insomnia, isolation, etc.

Therapy is essential with these individuals to address what loneliness is and what it isn’t, addressing feelings of alienation and exploring why she/he created this world for themselves; for example a person might recognize she has placed too much emphasis on work and her success in a way to avoid trusting others, avoiding connecting with people and treatment will focus on the importance of emotional intimacy in one’s life.

5. Guilt and Shame

Quite often, the first thing a successful person says when entering my therapy office is, “I probably shouldn’t be here. There are people with a lot bigger problems who need your time more than I do.” While

there’s a common notion that successful people feel entitled, many of them also feel guilty or ashamed. They may be plagued with thoughts of an internal state of inadequacy, unworthiness, dishonor, regret, or disconnection.

Therapy is essential in these individuals to explore origin of guilt and shame and to free their psyche from these painful wounds.

For help, call/text: Bobbi Ebsen Psychotherapy at 734-22​3-6014 or email: ceotherapist@bobbiebsen.com.